Have you ever had days that just don’t pan out and you don’t know why? Things out of your control can just ruin your day if you let them. They can set off your anxiety & stress levels that for me, I personally hate encountering.
The trick is how to prepare for those days and those events.
No, I don’t mean have a contingency for everything possible that could happen. To be frank, that’s not possible!
But what you can do or approach your day is in how you set your goals within your own frame work. Don’t make a goal a do or die goal. Just set your goals with your intent and decide upon them. In most cases, you’ll achieve them.
Example:
I used to get pretty dang upset when unplanned events, or even dramas unfolded right in front of me. Backed up plumbing, blown tire, my car taking a dive on me. Of course these events and anything like them suck. But I used to get pretty wound up over any and all of these things. I knew I couldn’t keep going through life getting this agitated over everything.
If you decided to get gas for your car on Saturday, but then the water main to your house breaks, there’s a good chance you won’t get to the gas station.
Now if you have plenty of gas in your tank, then this is nothing and you’ll get it later. Then when you set the goal in mind that you intend to get gas on Saturday, you should always be flexible enough just in case the unplanned events rear their ugly heads!
One of the main statements that I always carry in my mind is that, “no matter what, it will get resolved.” I know it. That and you should also have a great plan B in your back pocket.
When I’m looking at the gushing plume of water outside my house, rather than seeing all the misery it will cause me, I just look at it knowing I will stop it. Hopefully sooner than later, but it will be dealt with. Nothing is so finite to end my day. Sometimes crap happens and it will ruin a moment or an hour. Should it ruin a whole day? That’s up to you.
So in my head while looking at the geyser, I did the following: Wrote off getting gas. I know I can get it later today, tomorrow or when the next available moment is that I have to do that. I now had to find plumbers. No use hurrying all frantic. Sit down, call around or even go on your local consumer ratings site to make sure you get a good plumber. And then the real plan B… while waiting for that plumber, I had a health magazine I had bought, planning to read. I got over 1/2 that magazine read before the plumber showed up.
So I got the water fixed, got my magazine read, then when all was said and done, guess what? I went and got gas!
It really doesn’t do any good throwing a fit about something. In fact, that’s just wasted time and energy and life is too short to waste your energies on anger. Plus you don’t think straight when you’re busy throwing fits.
In Closing:
Don’t hardwire goals as if they’re do or die. They usually never are.
Always look for that plan B that you might be able to tackle if it’s possible, while dealing with an interruption.
When you encounter problems, no matter how big or small, just know that it can be dealt with. Sometimes not quickly, but know that you will fix it.
